I think people often misunderstand the concept of choosing our "reaction" to an external event.  When you truly realize that every emotion you experience is your own choice of how you perceive something that happens in the world "outside" of you, you understand that you're not falsely acting happy when you feel hurt on the inside, you simply don't have the hurt at all because you know no one has the power to wrong you when you choose your emotions.  read more »