Looking FOr Happiness
Hello, to all. I am new to this .. This is my first Blog. I am a little scared, but i really have nothing to loose at this point. The past few months (aroung November) My life has been a complete dissaster, it is as if nothing can go right. I have lost everything i never had. I am severly depressed,lonley and Lost. I have been reading alot of self help books and trying to help others (by volunteer work), however these have only seemed to be very very temporary fixes. I feel as though i truly need to seek professional help... therapist... life coach....a Docter... someone. However of course such is life and My Luck, I have no Job nor insurance. I feel as though i have hit a brick wall, and dont know where to go for help to deal with my issues.
If there is anyone, who feels as though they can help or can point me in the right direction... I, I .. would be... I not quite sure what i would be. I feel as though i have become so numb, and am just going through the motions. Yet i know that, i dont want to be like this forever and i need to get help. I feel like i am waitiing for Nothing.
-Sincerly, Hopefull...
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response to "looking for happiness"
sunny,
I went through a period of discontent and horrible sadness a couple years ago after a series of events. I felt so hopeless and like there was nothing I really wanted to be doing with myself. I've never been religious at all, but I started reading some of the principles and stories of buddhism (it's more of a philosophy than a religion) and began meditating. It helps you clear your mind a release feelings of sadness. I began to see beauty in more things and was able to communicate myself better. I also started doing yoga. I had no idea that just making my body feel better would positively influence my mind so much.
Honestly, what has really pulled me out of the rut has been going back to school. Applying myself to projects, listening to interesting people, and beginning to interact with people in a neutral environment where the conversation topic is already determined made a "reintegration" into normal life much easier. Whether school is a possibility or not, applying yourself and making goals (whatever they may be) gives you something to focus your energies on. If you are on task, everything troublesome seems to slip away. Eventually, you may find the depression unfamiliar and sort of like a ghost that you are not sure if it's even still there. It doesn't have to be there anymore. It's this mental fixation that seems irremovable but can be forgotten about if you decide there are more important things you want--and can-- do.
It's tough, it sucks, and you are going to have to step out of your comfort zone--but you can do it. Read about "the three marks of existence" and the concept of "impermanence."
Good luck and best wishes, thp
looking for happiness
hello sunny
well you are already on your way to health and happiness. Just stepping into a new place to say your truth and ask for support and being open to hearing it is HUGE!!! there are plenty of good books to read as have been suggested. I also hope you reach out to someone near by to hug you, to hear you, to see you. Do you go to a place of worship? Pastor are free!!!
And while telling yourself postitive things may feel like a lie, go for it. use a water soluable marker and write on a mirror, " I am worthy" "I will settle for absolutely nothing less than absolutely everything", be gentle on you. How would you treat your very best friend if he or she were in your shoes? Are you loving yourself in that same way? Why? Why not?
What are your talents, gifts? have you volunteered lately? focusing on others is a great way to discover purpose, passion and the loving reality that all of us on the planet need one another.
well that is enough. Thanks for allowing me to remind myself about what is important. you already helped this writer. I am off to write a message of love on the bathroom mirror for me and my kids to read in the morning.
get some HUGS
response to "looking for happiness"
sunny,
I went through a period of discontent and horrible sadness a couple years ago after a series of events. I felt so hopeless and like there was nothing I really wanted to be doing with myself. I've never been religious at all, but I started reading some of the principles and stories of buddhism (it's more of a philosophy than a religion) and began meditating. It helps you clear your mind a release feelings of sadness. I began to see beauty in more things and was able to communicate myself better. I also started doing yoga. I had no idea that just making my body feel better would positively influence my mind so much.
Honestly, what has really pulled me out of the rut has been going back to school. Applying myself to projects, listening to interesting people, and beginning to interact with people in a neutral environment where the conversation topic is already determined made a "reintegration" into normal life much easier. Whether school is a possibility or not, applying yourself and making goals (whatever they may be) gives you something to focus your energies on. If you are on task, everything troublesome seems to slip away. Eventually, you may find the depression unfamiliar and sort of like a ghost that you are not sure if it's even still there. It doesn't have to be there anymore. It's this mental fixation that seems irremovable but can be forgotten about if you decide there are more important things you want--and can-- do.
It's tough, it sucks, and you are going to have to step out of your comfort zone--but you can do it. Read about "the three marks of existence" and the concept of "impermanence."
Good luck and best wishes, thp
Not alone
You are not alone and likely someone is thinking of you and supporting you behind the "scenes". Just know that what's good on the inside shines through for all to see, and if something is not so good, (well...we all have it) it needs to be addressed and then that won't be within you anymore. My advise, smile, forgive and apply the golden rule...plus no one knows the future, so be excited that it will bring better times, even though right now you can't see it.
dear sunny,
i know also the feeling of isolation when you some to the point where you look around you and see no help what so ever. you find yourself in a whirlpool of self help activities, so many that its hard to destinguish whats really working and also to keep track of them all.
My advice is to simplify your life. ridd yourself of what you do not need. often i find that in doing so i feel much lighter and positive about the future.
this may just start by clearing/de-cluttering a room and making it your meditation zone.. somewhere that you can relax with a book, pray, listen to beautiful music, create and meditate.
also try to see the beauty around you, walk at dawn or dusk..see the beautiful autumn leaves and experience the crisp bite of the air.
try not to clutter your mind with self help books, but find one that you love dearly and highlight/tag the pages/ quotes that mean the most to you and revise.
I have been to many phsyciatrists, spiritual healers, councilors (excuse spelling haha) myself. and believe it or not the most influential person i have ever spoken to was none of the listed. do not feel asthough qualified people are the only ones who have the knowledge to help you.. ring an old friend and catch up, or talk to someone close, if you feel asthough you have no one close then develop a relationship..i find this an excellent way to generate positive energy.
i would love to help you, please feel free to contact me
cilla =]
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